In yoga we often read that attachment is the cause of your suffering .That means attachment is to be controlled .But how ?
Anyone knows how to control attachment .?
If you know then your life turns out to be bliss .However even after following the path to renunciation we often come across instances where the call of heart is above the call of mind .
often we are not able to discriminate between the calls of love and calls of attachment .The two have minor differences .And we are often not able to cite these .
In any simple case like helping where we have an inclination of assistance and the need to beautify the relationship we often end up getting confused .discussing with someone close about the third person often indicate that may be we need approval to be able to speak up for ourself .Very few instances occur where we are able to speak about ourselves without taking help from someone else .
Then how to know what is right to say and what is not ?How to talk so that attachment dosent come up to people and in their hearts .And forget about the other person .Its me who is in the place .How to talk in such a way that my feelings and emotions are respected and heard and also appears valuable to the other person .
{ This is more common in the case of opposite gender .}
Well my girl this is a simple solution .Try to contain your emotions inside your container till you don't feel that someone is out there to open the box and lock it safely forever .And also knows how to pay the price each day like we give to the banks to keep our jewellery safe .
The reason that more women feel week and ignored or feel like a doormat is that we speak so much in such a little time that generally the other person is able to read our mind .The aim is to read my feelings but what they read is my mind .
So by speaking we often end up becoming like a doormat .Anyone can walk .
Now since you are a female in India , a country where the gender was not respected it adds up misery that even your mother or another female may not support you but trust me if you actually need that love with brains you need to put lock to your feelings till a guard comes up to protect it .
And above all always remember , god love you from the moment he created you .You are here to play your role in this world drama cycle .
Just because you are a female it does not mean you can be treated like a doormat .You were born perfect and were perfect till the moment you were made to believe that you need people around to be perfect .
However with the changing times and changing rules we all learn that we are perfect even when we are alone .It is not necessary to be attached to a male to get that sense of value .
Anyone knows how to control attachment .?
If you know then your life turns out to be bliss .However even after following the path to renunciation we often come across instances where the call of heart is above the call of mind .
often we are not able to discriminate between the calls of love and calls of attachment .The two have minor differences .And we are often not able to cite these .
In any simple case like helping where we have an inclination of assistance and the need to beautify the relationship we often end up getting confused .discussing with someone close about the third person often indicate that may be we need approval to be able to speak up for ourself .Very few instances occur where we are able to speak about ourselves without taking help from someone else .
Then how to know what is right to say and what is not ?How to talk so that attachment dosent come up to people and in their hearts .And forget about the other person .Its me who is in the place .How to talk in such a way that my feelings and emotions are respected and heard and also appears valuable to the other person .
{ This is more common in the case of opposite gender .}
Well my girl this is a simple solution .Try to contain your emotions inside your container till you don't feel that someone is out there to open the box and lock it safely forever .And also knows how to pay the price each day like we give to the banks to keep our jewellery safe .
The reason that more women feel week and ignored or feel like a doormat is that we speak so much in such a little time that generally the other person is able to read our mind .The aim is to read my feelings but what they read is my mind .
So by speaking we often end up becoming like a doormat .Anyone can walk .
Now since you are a female in India , a country where the gender was not respected it adds up misery that even your mother or another female may not support you but trust me if you actually need that love with brains you need to put lock to your feelings till a guard comes up to protect it .
And above all always remember , god love you from the moment he created you .You are here to play your role in this world drama cycle .
Just because you are a female it does not mean you can be treated like a doormat .You were born perfect and were perfect till the moment you were made to believe that you need people around to be perfect .
However with the changing times and changing rules we all learn that we are perfect even when we are alone .It is not necessary to be attached to a male to get that sense of value .
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