There are lot many things we are looking for in life .Sometimes happiness ,peace ,words ,fame , inspiration ,love ,attention ,etc.
With every day that passes by we look for different things .It has a very special significance in our life .It may appear how ? But the truth is that like our moods change everyday ,every time ,every year ,so does people in our lives .
Sometimes we hold for so long on a small set of people that the bigger prespective of life which has just to do with you is lost .We end up living a life full of approvals from our parents ,friends ,lover ,etc , without ever thinking that they all added up to a life that existed .
You are the bark of the tree .Your relationship with people are the branches .
We often feel that if we miss the people we loved once we will be incomplete ,would not be able to settle in our lives but it may appear false to you .
When you halt for a few moments now you will realize that you are actually breathing .And when you are breathing you are actually alive .You actually are not dependent on anyone's approval to live your life or sustain your breath .
When you look at an iceberg you often see only the surface and from that you make a prespective that it is not huge but however we all have heard about titanic .The ship lost its life after being hit by an iceberg .
So now you must be getting my point that you are the root of the tree and the bark .You the soul in this body and all the relationships your branches .The branches are sometimes trimmed to keep the tree healthy .
So never give up !! Just breathe till you get the larger picture . 

In yoga we often read that attachment is the cause of your suffering .That means attachment is to be controlled .But how ?
Anyone knows how to control attachment .?
If you know then your life turns out to be bliss .However even after following the path to renunciation we often come across instances where the call of heart is above the call of mind .
often we are not able to discriminate between the calls of love and calls of attachment .The two have  minor differences .And we are often not able to cite these .
In any simple case like helping where we have an inclination of assistance and the need to beautify the relationship we often end up getting confused .discussing with someone close about the third person often indicate that may be we need approval to be able to speak up for ourself .Very few instances occur where we are able to speak about ourselves without taking help from someone else .
Then how to know what is right to say and what is not ?How to talk so that attachment dosent come up to people and in their hearts .And forget about the other person .Its me who is in the place .How to talk in such a way that my feelings and emotions are respected and heard and also appears valuable to the other person .
{ This is more common in the case of opposite gender .}
Well my girl this is a simple solution .Try to contain your emotions inside your container till you don't feel that someone is out there to open the box and lock it safely forever .And also knows how to pay the price each day like we give to the banks to keep our jewellery safe .
The reason that more women feel week and ignored or feel like a doormat is that we speak so much in such a little time that generally the other person is able to read our mind .The aim is to read my feelings but what they read is my mind .
So by speaking we often end up becoming like a doormat .Anyone can walk .
Now since you are a female in India , a country where the gender was not respected it adds up misery that even your mother or another female may not support you but trust me if you actually need that love with brains you need to put lock to your feelings till a guard comes up to protect it .
And above all always remember , god love you from the moment he created you .You are here to play your role in this world drama cycle .
Just because you are a female it does not mean you can be treated like a doormat .You were born perfect and were perfect till the moment you were made to believe that you need people around to be perfect .
However with the changing times and changing rules we all learn that we are perfect even when we are alone .It is not necessary to be attached to a male to get that sense of value .

Yoga has simply meant moral control of thought .This definition has lost its significance to modern understanding of asanas .
The simple truth of life that no matter what we do we are always in the state of communion with the lord is what yoga actually meant .However to the changing times it was lost to the way we look .
The physical beauty is all that people think of yoga .
Yoga also teaches you many other things like independence .You may ask or feel how ?
Well the answer is that yoga practise is actually practising to be yourself .To be you , which means to be able to stand up for your view point and to be able to speak up your mind .If your mind is governed by morality or greed let it be .The ability to accept it and work with it is yoga .
As a yoga instructor the job is to be able to make people believe that no matter what you do its okay if you feel low of yourself .This is because you are looking at yourself from point of view of somebody else .And the fact is that somebody else is not you .
Sometimes people come up and share some of the personal experiences that leave you devastated also making you think that how can any human bear so much of pain .But somehow whaen you return to the class you see actually those people alive .They are not wrong .They are living just under pain .
Asnas are good to remove the physical cause but not the moral or philosophicial cause of the pain .
Falling in love or making love before marriage is not wrong but often this is considered wrong .
Sometime you find females phobic to relationships ,marriage as a custom is also Yoga .Joining is yoga but never have people felt that way.
Our bodies or morals go out of shape in a life .We are often running towards or away from something .In all these cases we find people doing yoga .Yoga is mergence .Merging with your goal or desire is Yoga . So technically run ning is also not wrong .You are just doing yoga of some other kind.The mere difference of realization about the act you are doing is yoga .But often yoga is restricted to asanas and then yoga looses its essence just to the physical nature of human mind .Whereas the actual essence of the yoga is to make you spiritual .The place where you have love for all the beings both animate or inanimate .