Most Fights are on suppositions

While I was growing up, I saw many people around fighting, for issues of petty concerns given grave importance. The mind is an untamed servant, and thanks to our falling to the lower qualities of human behavior, we end up becoming the slave of ego, which is good to a certain extent and not beyond. The reason, if you are governed by one of the slaves who is supposed to work for you, you actually lose whatever you have gained from other slaves.
A human life is more like a business trip, here we come and exchange energies for things sometimes material and sometimes not, but we are only in exchange. sometimes, in the process of exchange, we end up losing ourselves or our minds, on things perceived ours.
It was very recently when I encountered that, most of my conversations are soft and because I learned that things can be solved without a fight, I tried to develop an attitude where I do not end up hurting someone's ego. Once you are hurt on the ego level, it is rare to get that thing corrected, no matter how much you try, it will remain there like a scar.
                                     

I see husbands-wives fighting or in a heated argument over small things like food supplies, where one may demand a small portion or other may or may not give. It is a context, which we live, but this is never understood. Who to lean down in this situation is difficult to be said, but the only thing I gained is by fighting you just lose the balance, which is your inherent quality.

Most fights about character are based on suppositions, may peace be the dominant trait. In India, I saw people fighting over the issue of sex, a lot, which is actually only an illusion created and lived for sometimes and not for a very long duration.
Husband and wives sometimes actually cheat and sometimes not, by crossing their limits, because they are trying to seek pleasure from someone outside. Seeking pleasure is not a wrong thing, no scripture refrains you from that but making a mountain out of a molehill is what creates trouble.
The supposition that instead of going to office your mate is cheating on you, creates trouble. very, few people do that, those who do are generally the ones, who do not have knowledge of anything beyond. So they end up falling and failing to the lower chakras.

Yogic Concept of Love OR Yogic Love

True love is never binding in nature and always is open to change and acceptance. The love form that got changed with time into a mere or mundane form of conservation is what we are looking at today in the world.
True love is all about respect and complete acceptance of decision of the other person, no efforts of modification or leaving the being as a petty material object which can never be addressed or accepted or found. Expression of hugs, kisses and gifts have overtaken the emotion and joy of simply living the expression called love.
                                           

In my recent interaction with a romantic lover, I found the process of non-kissing a daunting task for the other being, as it is integrated part of love. Well, maybe the verb form of love i.e. doing love or lovemaking is commonly understood as love. So, like an object, I need to look for someone to express my emotions and so if I disapprove of kissing or hugging or sleeping would mean that I am not sane.
Maybe earlier sometimes I think there was nothing called love, and in order to add some spice to life and philosophy, the term love was coined and so was the effect that the simple joy of living with any other sentinel being was reduced to just addition of hugs and kisses and not to the process of living.
Loves and Kisses are good as a doing form of love but, can never replace the actual aspect of love.The simple process of living and the simple process of giving.

What can I give best to anyone in my life, is my time, so when I am ready to give my time, why would you lose me for not giving just the lips. In India, since sex and kiss were considered bad initially and not open for such interactions in public, so people always want to go for hugs and kisses and sex in dark rooms of cinema or closed rooms.
These are good for the process of senses and sensual development but love is never dependent on these things. So a simple love would be completely accepting and respecting the decision of no love and no kiss for as long as both partners are not agreeing to it.

This is a personal account or experience, which people may or may not agree with.

Premature Female May Suffer From Menstural Disorder

This may sound familiar to all the females who are born before the natural duration of 32 weeks of pregnancy.
The development of the body although takes place within the time frame of 28 weeks but the last 2 months are critical to development. Although, no research has been done in this regard till date, (as I could not find online any data), but after talking to women born premature and being one of them, I do realize and feel that premature birth does affect the body and in turn the development of the female reproductive organ, apart from the rest of the things like memory, anxiety, stress response, etc.

As the body needs heat which cannot be obtained outside the mother's womb without the proper care being given, generally premature females end up growing with the complications of the menstural disorder. The body although has completely developed genitals but do not have the necessary heat support that is needed to bring them to a healthy level, so that at the time of puberty one does not suffer from the problems or early or mostly late onset of the menstural cycle.

The premature birth affects many aspects of development and menstrual cycle is one major area, as most women do not report it to the doctors and also doctors do not ask, the importance of the premature birth is neglected.

The reason is simple, as common sense or subconscious can relate is that as a body does not have the necessary heat, as the core of the premature baby may have some complications of stomach and intestine, so are the complications with the reproductive organs. The person may have a cold core and in order for the follicle to mature a certain amount of heat is required, which may fall short because of lack of nutrition or early birth may lead to delay in the menstrual cycle.
As the heat in the body is lost more in the winter, you may have the feeling of periods being delayed but the real reason can be lesser heat in the body. The same could be managed may be if the proper care is taken after the birth but as of now, no research has been done or a herb developed to bring ease in the pain and the menstrual cycle of such females.

Disclaimer: The is a blog based on the personal data, collected after interaction with a few females born prematurely. Try yourself and see if you can relate. Leave a comment in case you are also one or know someone from this line. 

Premature babies and Feeling of cold in adulthood

Premature babies are born each day, and thanks to the advancement of technology and so many associated methods these children are getting saved. The main issue of the survival is addressed easily by the medical practitioner and so that part of the problem is resolved.

But, this is only the surface level solution of the main problems, that this child may face as an adult. The premature baby can face one/ more or all of the issues listed in the list below:

1.    ADHD – Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder

2.    Anxiety more than average adult or children

3.    Intestinal problems

4.    Easy prone to stress

5.    Social stress and classroom stress

6.    Neurological disorder

7.    Lack of interest

8.    Early development of apathies behavior

9.    Feeling cold

10.                     Lower body temperature  

11.                     Regular hunger bouts and nausea

12.                     Breathing problems like asthma

13.                      Prone to heart attack

14.                     Hearing disorder or pain in ears

15.                     Pain in throat or loss of speech at an early age.

16.                     Development of cervical disorder at an early age.

17.                     Obesity or easy weight gain.

These are 15 symptoms of diseases that can be seen in an adult who is born prematurely. There can be more diseases that can be learned with the observation and a focused study of these premature adults.

It has been learned that as the body heat or core heat is low in the children born before the completion of 37 weeks cycle, these children when grow up tend to fall ill easily. Their immunity is low and they can exhibit hypothermic behavior.

Mostly women after childbirth are not able to take proper care of the infants because of the work load and pressure in the personal lives because of constant changes. Fatty food gives a feeling of warmth and protection to these children, so when they grow up, they tend to lose easily their self-control to fatty foods.

Fatty foods become a replacement for the warmth they missed in their childhood and so they are able to sleep and feel cozy because of the same. So the tendency to sleep longer among the premature child and adults is more.

This gives them the warmth. So, if your child/spouse/brother/Sister/ friend/boss or anyone is premature then give them the compassion and love, your loving hug and can give them the necessary body heat.

https://www.romper.com/p/11-problems-premature-babies-may-face-later-in-life-22437

https://www.emedicinehealth.com/frostbite_and_hypothermia_symptoms_and_stages/article_em.htm#what_is_paradoxical_undressing

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/01/140106094437.htm

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We are never taught about true love, we are always taught, conditional love. As a child, mom loves the child who is more intelligent and smart, as a student a teacher loves the student who tops the class, as a girl you love the boy who meets your checklist or vice versa.

But as a 25 plus or 20 plus what is that we go after, it is love or just sex (intercourse) we are looking for.  In most of our movies, we always find people telling us, that someone will love you completely or wholly or a man of your dreams kind of stories is fed in our minds. But is it true that we need to wait for someone to love me? Really?

I don’t think so, with an increase in the number of people who are falling for this idea, we find more conflicts people struggling with their lives.

The age of innovation we have between 5 to 15 are the most important years, as at this age you become one with your dream, people who start early generally end up becoming more successful on their paths. But why are we losing so many people to the wrong idea or misconception of “love”, you are lovable the way you are, you do not fit into someone’s standards to be loved?

People will always judge you and try to manipulate you to their benefits in India this is so prominent, as we believe in “dog eats dog” philosophy, so to survive you need a guard at any or all ages.

So you are asked to follow the crowd and never allowed to stand out. The reason, if you stand out figures will be pointed at you and your life will lose its meaning.

Life has already lost its meaning to the process of demand and supply, what can be the loss further, when your parents cannot support you when you stand up from the crowd. 

Material Joys and Spiritual Joys

Happiness is not dependent on external circumstances; rather, it is to be found in the simpler joys of life, and most of all in the ever new bliss of deep meditation....

Be happy by clinging to the simple, true, and lasting soul-joys. They come by deep thinking, introspection, spiritual inspiration, and meditation.

                        ............................. Paramhansa Yogananda

Yoga has been an inspiration to many people, but very few today attain the actual goal of yoga. People may call them yogi’s, spiritual masters, self-help teachers or sometimes ‘the enlightened ones’. But they are just real people with the same body of 5 elements purified by the tapas and the light outside is coming from within.

‘As within, so without’ and so could be learned from the great teacher “Paramhansa Yogananda”. In the quote above you can find the universal wisdom and the gateway open to the everlasting joy. The term happiness has been always the baseline for all the material pursuits. In the American doctrine or the constitution or preamble, whatever it is, it has been written “in the pursuit of happiness”, so when we all are running around to find happiness, and that associated with the material pleasure has lead to the creation of low-quality life.

It can be easily understood from the quote above that “happiness can never be found in the materials as the everlasting joy comes from within”.  I could make out that life always has a tendency to draw us closer to the energy we emit. If we emit the energy of lack we attract lack, if we create the energy of joy we attract joy. So how can we attract joy, when we are dealing with the imbalance of the chakras on our lower level, the Mooladhar chakra, the Swadhisthan chakra and the Manipura chakra.

People who often suffer from anxiety and stress, on their very introduction with the path of yoga and they start working with the higher chakras like Ajna chakra and Sahasrara chakra, but the actual spiritual joy can only be felt or experienced if you try to connect and bring to balance the Mooladhar chakra.

So to experience the joy work with the Ajana but work with the Mooladhara and Swadhisthana.   

Imbalance of Mooladhar Chakra

Root Chakra or Mooladhara chakra as the name comprises has two significant parts Mula meaning “root” and Adhara, means “support” or “base.” Generally, this chakra gets it balance or imbalance in the childhood.

You may ask how?

The reason is simple if you received love from your parents and all your needs were met in the childhood, then you feel safe and secure. Once you get this love and warmth, then your chakra gets the necessary heat quote which is similar to the warmth of motherly love. If you do not get this love then the heat sheet of the mooladhar becomes active because of the constant fear you face. A child may look fearful and may cry often has got his/her sheet affected so this adds to the imbalance further.

Generally, Mooladhar chakra is not balanced without conscious effort.  The imbalance is quite common these days, as almost each of us has faced some kind of fear and thanks to technology even parents are now becoming cranky and offensive.

                                      

It is commonly felt that imbalance in chakra can be seen if you experience any of the following:

·       Insecurity

·       Lack of clarity

·       Sexual dysfunction

·       Anger

·       Compulsive behavior

·       Eating disorder

An imbalance at root chakra can only be healed if you get that feeling of safety and security, the security can only come if you repeat one affirmation “I am safe and secure. I trust life. Life supports me in all my thoughts. I feel the love and warmth of mother earth.”

This simple affirmation can create the miracle for you and can help in restoring health to the chakra. 

Fears of failure

We live life each day, like a manual with a lost spark, because life as the definition of Oxford dictionary means that "the condition that distinguishes animals and plants from inorganic matter, including the capacity for growth, reproduction, functional activity, and continual change preceding death." 

But when living with normal, regular people each day interact they all feel that there is something called passion missing from their lives. We all were creative beings once in our lives and the tide of times made us lose our creativity. 

While childhood days were running by, I could analyze that in the future life will be better, as adults make money and they have the freedom to spend it as per their choice, but these days the choices have also lost their spark because of the repetitive nature of problems. 

The fear of unknown and failure dominates the human mind, heart, and body always but after failing nothing feels so. In fact I also felt that failing is an important part of life, it gives you the time of much-needed rest, and only those fail, who do something in their lives. 

Every country is facing the problem of economy, on a top level we may reason that brain drain, lack of initiative, etc are the reason for the same, but actually, it is always fear of failure that creates such imbalances. 
These fears are programmed in our consciousness since our childhood. God also has seen failure and created lives out of it, but we as humans are not allowed to create our own path. We need to restrict our growth surrendering to the fear of society or social pressure. 

Let's support each other in moving through failure and support the growth of nature and an individual by mastering the process of failure. 

Healing Swadisthan Chakra

Swadisthan Chakra is a chakra least addressed in childhood, it gets mostly disturbed at a very young age in most of us.
You can see children who are very creative and those who are not at all creative in expression. A less creative mind indicates an imbalance of chakra and so is the early onset of the problems like depression, fear of failure, trembling body, overeating, etc.
A disturbed Swadhisthan chakra can often lead to a disturbed sexual life and lack of feeling of self worth. But the process of healing or cleansing of chakra can only be done if we accept the issues and address the issues related to the Swadisthan chakra.

Effects of healing Swadisthan:
Often the time of healing is never understood easily, you may feel sleepy and face a lot of mood swings.
A healed Swadisthan Chakra indicates:

• A joyful attitude
• Energetic attitude
• Focused attitude 
• Less criticality 
• More emotional balance 
• Independent emotional expression 
• Self-love and worth understanding

The focus is on what changes you feel when the chakra starts restoring health:
1. You may often feel sleepy
2. Introspective silence
3. Withdrawal from senses
4. Sleeping like a baby
5. More focus on analyzing your emotions.
6. Changes in eating habit
7. May feel like crying often without any reason

The restorative process is entirely dependent on the amount of disruption that has taken place in the chakra. Sometimes when the deep hurts took place in childhood or you were raped or had an unpleasant exposure to an intercourse can lead to imbalance.
Although wild sex is getting more support these days and people resorting to the drugs and other related instruments to feel more pleasure, the same is the reason for the huge imbalance in people at later ages. Often the energy fluid of the chakra is disturbed with too much of sex, and this can create the process of water retention in our bodies. Thus overcoming, the same is important.

Healing energy of silence

Living in an urban city is not an easy thing. Many of us while growing up, were always working towards a goal or a deadline, in childhood, we used to rush to school, then to college and then to the office. We never really find the time and sit down and talk to ourselves in silence. Most of the time in life we have plans and obligations to fulfill.

A life meaning and purpose is only fulfilled if we gain the realization of the true goal, that is silence.
All organisms live in silence most of the time, but they never get bored or feel burdened. They just live their lives and flow with life. Their whole day's job is to just walk, play or run, eat and sleep. They do procreate individual's of their own species and believe in the limit.
The energy is never lost and they always look the same. 
Whenever you hug a pet, like a squirrel a bird or any such small being, you feel so relaxed and easy, their heart is filled with love, which reaches you and alters your level of stress following a busy day.
So, what is it that keeps them alive the whole day and their energies full and never do they fall ill like we humans?
Well, the answer is simple it's their power of silence, where they communicate and argue but their core is not disturbed by these waves of continuous noise. 
As every energy produces a ripple in your energy field, so are these forms of energies, they also produce the ripple. In the process, the energy never gets to be aligned. You find people around always or mostly engaged in the activities of life, which is a good thing to an extent, but beyond that our energies negative in nature are not purified. 
Silence inside produces an environment of peace in our bodies and mind, the peace is in the cells, the cells divide in a peaceful environment to procreate and produce new cells, that are again healthy, slowly a new body or a new mind is created which is already healed.
Healing of silence can only be felt in silence, as it is a natural effortless state, but in Chios, you are not connected to yourself so you cannot feel the silence and its benefits.

Swadisthan Chakra and the concept of Sex in India

Swadisthan is the seat of the "self" or the "soul", filled with the desire of breaking the limits and reaching to the highest of the human potential, Swadisthan chakra has been know as the center for giving and receiving pleasure.
Sex feeling and development of the sexual urge take place at a very young age of 6, understanding and receiving awareness about the same is difficult. Talking about Sex is considered bad in India, but doing Sex is the most important thing. Most marriages are done to have freedom of Sex, especially in India.  
The sexual restraint is asked to be done until the age of marriage and the thought of the same is prohibited before marriage, although thanks to the romantic cinema mostly movies provoke the sexual desire, leading to the early onset of the menstrual cycle in women and the same is applicable to men except they don't bleed.
Well doing sex is not bad, but the healthy flow of sexual knowledge is important so that the concept of sex does not lead to the imbalance of the chakra.
In India you will find women with wide hips, just beating African women, you may think of the reason and yes you got the answer right!!
Its the imbalance of chakra that is created, in almost all the women. Women of modern India are although speaking about the same, but in the past women were not allowed to express such emotions publically.

There is also one more concept to this, that women are mostly coming from the middle-class background and cannot think of having a physical relationship because of the famous "ghar ki izzat batiya" mindset. Although, no where in the scripture is it written but even today most women lie dead during the sexual activities as the concept sometimes appear new or alienated.
Or, the famous issue of men leading the life, so men leading the sexual life. In one of the lectures of OSHO, it was well said that most men & women in India are not taught the art of giving and receiving pleasure, so again the confusion arises, and so there is no union of energy among the two.
This leads to creation of imbalance slowly, a part of this is done before marriage when the learning is not passed properly from a manual like "Kamasutra" and partly after, as they do not have anything to talk about, believing it to be a part of the process, mostly end up doing Sex as a leisure activity not reaching to the goal of this union, which is again feeling complete, or achieving Brahma. 
So thanks to the loss of knowledge we find Swadisthan imbalance high among the individuals.

Swadhisthan Chakra affirmations

Swadhisthan Chakra is the seat for self-confidence and self-love in an individual. Those of you who have worked with the Swadhisthan Chakra know that it is the center of emotional responses in our lives.
Generally, by hearing the constant complaints and nagging from the family, friends and relatives, you end up losing your uniqueness to these complaints and the cycle of the same continues through the various phases of life. It was more common among women but now even men also feel the lack of emotional support and fear because fear is the basis of the creation of life.
Life in itself is complete and whole, and God never told or whispered in your ear that "Life is a Suffering". Surrendring your ears to the elders in the frame of love and confusion, generally, we never get the ability to say "NO" to any of the negative messages you hear about your identity.

So what are the common affirmations or messages leading to the imbalance of the Swadisthan chakras:
1. You are no good!! - Anger
2. I am tired of you!!- Nagging
3. You are so sick!! - you have no self-worth
4. I hate you!!- Low self- esteem
5. You are no good!!
6. Nalayak Kahika (common Indian phrase)
7. Kisi Kaam ka nai hai!!
8. Brainless brat!!

And you can add more to the list, as the dictionary is large and wide, and people have always exercised freedom of speech in the wrong sense without using intellect.
So how can you overcome these parasitic statements that vibrate in your consciousness, while you grow up?
Well, use of the mantra for healing the Swadisthan chakra is the common anecdote for healing the vibration of the chakra, but as compared to healing mantra, healing affirmations work more effectively.
so some of the common affirmations for healing the Swadisthan Chakra are as follows:
1. I love myself and accept myself as I am.
2. Life is good, positive and supportive.
3. I am able to express myself in loving ways.
4. I attract people in my life who love me for what I am.
5. All the Universal wisdom is available to me.
6. Life is easy and fun.
7. I flow freely with life.
8. I love my life.

As there are many problems associated with the Swadisthan Chakra, you can keep checking my blogs for more update!!
Have a good time ahead ! and A healthy happy chakra!!

some links to work with the Swadisthan Chakra:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCJkTXS4LoA
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PxVggWz12Bs
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AQftOC77bxM&t=3072s

Career driven Chakra Swadhisthan

It was the toughest time of my life, going through a career crash and believing that "everything is working for my highest good".
This is true, that always things are working energetically towards a goal, the atoms break down into smaller particles and more sub-atomic particles are formed, every day new things are happening in our lives and new people come in.

That was also a day, a day of Career disaster when all my choices went wrong suddenly and no one was left to look after and look upon. It was a day when it felt like life has left me and that now no more would the life source prevail in my body, all I had was just my flesh breathing.
It is like that when you are born in a world with goal driven people and sarcasm ruling the tip of the tongue of near and dear ones, you cannot escape the fate of feeling lonely and unloved.
Generally, the greatest setback is the loss of career for an individual who was driven by the goal of ambition, it was that day.

So many days have been passed in trying to learn about the purpose of my life and the goal of my life and never could I find anyone to look upon. But in this process, a realization dawned on me that Swadhisthan chakra has been left unaddressed in the past few years.

In terms of yoga, the strength to focus and work comes from the Swadhisthan chakra, the second one from the bottom, just below the Manipura chakra. Mostly the career disasters are not resulting from the present day thinking, it was learned at some stage of childhood and stayed with us till date, till it actually manifested in life.

We learn in yoga that a confused "mind" or "maan" can lead to a lot of difficulties in an individual's life. The Swadhisthan chakra conflicts do not arise in a day, every day we need to chant the mantra or listen to someone's chanting about the failure to actually fail in life. Generally, such disasters are created in consciousness seeing people all around and answering them, while growing up, a question "what will you do in life by creativity", "how will you pay the bills", " what are your monthly earnings? "
All these doubts when fills a mind can lead to the disaster of career goals. But the good news is by working on the chakra and healing it, you can restore peace to the energy center and bring some peace to your life. The work can be done with the help of music, mantra or with the help of crystals.

Self love is an act of kindness

Denying the self of the much needed love and respect is a common phenomena. Mostly people do not take control of their lives and let it flow.

Leaving the control is okay, but leaving love is not!!

Love is lost to the tide of time and specially self love. While growing up our counsiouness is faced with a constant conflict about whether to love ourselves or not?

No one teach us this, that self love and self appreciation are the two most fundamental aspects of the human existence. Growing up from a child like mind, to becoming a matured individaul is all about denying yourself the basics of love you have for yourself.

Often discipline is introduced in communication in children, that they stop speaking or expressing. Lack of expression and focus creates all the difference in life as an adult. soon you become a robot without the much needed self love. People come to you, ask you to do things, we reach an age of giving and receiving pleasure, but with time everything fades and we are left with ourselves.

Constant nagging becomes companion in such circumstances and you loose your self worth to time without even realising that you have never had the oppertunity to love yourself. you become a copy of one of your parent or a close associate and never get to experience your shades.

following the footsteps of society you end up fearing your emotions or sometimes fearing the society. nobody actually lives for you , only you live for yourself. The life is passed without reach the goal of self love.

Start loving yourself from today, this moment and now, this is the real yoga. Till the mind or mann is mastered nothing in the universe is touched or felt.

Have a happy day ahead!! 

Why most marriages are failing?

Hi, there

This blog is in reference to my recent interactions with life, all my life I was running away from life and running towards peace, reason simple, I was a by-product of an unsuccessful marriage.
Most marriages nearly 85 percent of the marriages we see around the world are failing and now in India divorce rate is also trending, the highest divorce rate is found in northeast states. Presently the divorce population in India is 1.36 billion which is 0.24% of the total married population.
So what brings the divorce rate so high all around the world?

I was an observant always, listening to people and interacting in a personal zone of trust, I was able to find out that common money problems, complaints, nagging, hating, cheating, etc. are the reasons of the unsuccessful marriage. It was only when I interacted with yoga as a part of life, could I see that these days marriage has become an object of fulfilling the sexual desires.

Many years back marriage lost its significance when there was the introduction of inequality of gender. Any amount of effort, money and sex cannot bring two different individuals close to each other if they do not have a common knowledge base to talk about. 

A marriage which is a friendly association was introduced to bring together people close on friendly terms and it was considered that astrology would be the ideal way to bring two non-new people into the lives of others.
But with time it became a game and people started using the science of astrology for making money out of the bondings among the people. India has a large base for diverse kind of sciences and astrology is one of them.

Failing marriages bring a question on the astrological knowledge as people united by the kundali are considered to be the best suited or most suited individuals for each other.
So what caused the failure?
Well, it is now clear that two non-healthy individuals who have not loved themselves their whole life or have accepted their realities partly cannot be in a happy union. To bring happiness back into the lives of the people, we must introduce spirituality back into the lives of the people.
And this starts with the grassroots...  which means the childhood...